Sometimes the only thing standing between you and an irreversible harsh word is the space of a breath.  Take that space.  Take that breath.

In that breadth of space, look at the person whose world you’re about to destroy.  Really look at that person.

Does that person look tired?  Then consider how you would feel if someone unleashed on you when all you really wanted was some rest.

Does that person look overwhelmed?  Then consider how you would feel if someone lambasted you when all you wanted to do was get your feet under yourself.

Does that person look lonely, afraid, worried, frustrated, angry?  Does that person look like perhaps more is going on in life than any outsider could ever know?

Does that person look like you feel in the moment?

Take some space.  Take a breath.

Decide if you still need to deliver your message.  You may realize you don’t need to say what’s on your mind.  Or you may determine you still need to say what’s on your mind.  Sometimes unpleasant things need to be said, and that’s OK.

Just try not to destroy a life in the delivery of your message.

Take a breath.