Dear populace entering and exiting the door nearest me,
When I go through a door, I usually check behind me to see if someone else is coming, lest I allow the door to slam in his or her face.
When someone holds a door for me, I usually say thank you.
I often hold doors for people. I even hold doors for men (which will make more sense when you read the next line).
If a man and I arrive at a door simultaneously, I expect him to allow me to go through the door first. Let’s be honest; I expect him to hold the door for me. But if he does not, I expect to be allowed to enter first.
These are the things I do and expect, and they are also the things I want others to do and expect.
But alas, in the 10 minutes I’ve been stalking the door, I’ve seen none of these behaviors.
Missing chivalry and common courtesy,
Roshaunda D. Cade 
I appreciate etiquette but don’t particularly miss chivalry. I prefer gender neutral rules, to be honest. Whoever gets to the door first opens it. They either step back and hold it open for the second person or they walk through and hold it open for the second person.
I run into too many problems related to men trying to hold on to chivalry. Men who stop and hold the door open for me when I’m still a fair distance from them – they make me feel as though I need to rush to the door, to relieve the imposition on their time. Even though they are the ones that chose to hold the door for me. Or men who nearly run me over trying to get to the door first so they can open it for me.
That said, in the situation you describe, I tend to anticipate that the man will hold the door for me. Not because I want it, but because it’s what usually happens and the whole encounter goes so much more smoothly if we are on the same page. Of course, sometimes I’m wrong and then there’s the awkward moment where it becomes apparent I expected and he didn’t come through.
Fact is, some women expect it. Some don’t. Some men do it. Some don’t. Some women get mad if they do it. Some women get mad if they don’t do it. It’s truly a lost cause for all involved. Enough to make a person neurotic.
Ah neurotic. Therein lies my problem. 🙂